• April 14, 2024
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it’s 2024 don’t be anybody’s emotional and physical punching bag

it’s 2024 don’t be anybody’s emotional and physical punching bag

By Simon Guchu

We are always fighting so many silent battles within self and the weight borne is incomparable. We never talk about the struggles that we have to muddle through everyday . I believe we got so much ache that sometimes we’ve found ourselves losing faith. So many farewells and rip’s, less shoulders to lean onto and so many betrayals and disappointments. Sometimes the heavy pain that barely takes a pause is not for ourselves to blame but a result of the actions and words of others. It’s a reminder that we don’t always have control over the pain inflicted upon us by those around us. Whether it’s through intentional harm, thoughtless words, or neglect, the actions of others can deeply impact our emotional and mental well-being. 

It’s important to recognize that we are not responsible for the pain caused by others. We can’t control how others choose to treat us, but we can control how we respond and seek support. It’s okay to set boundaries, to speak up for ourselves, and to distance ourselves from toxic situations or relationships.

As society progresses into 2024, the recognition of individual rights and dignity has become more paramount than ever. Despite advancements in various domains, the scourge of emotional and physical abuse still persists in interpersonal relationships. This call to action urges individuals to reject the role of being a punching bag for anyone’s emotional or physical aggression.

 Just recently cases of femicide in Nairobi have shocked the community, highlighting the brutal reality of violence against women. One particularly tragic incident involved the senseless killing of a young woman who was brutally assaulted and left for dead in a deserted alleyway. Her life, filled with hopes, dreams, and aspirations, was abruptly ended by an act of unfathomable cruelty.

As the details of these horrific crimes emerge, it’s a stark reminder of the pervasive gender-based violence that continues to plague our society. Women should not have to live in fear for their safety simply because of their gender. Yet, far too often, they are subjected to harassment, assault, and even murder simply for being who they are.

The various women who have been subjected to pain did not choose to undergo the same. Instead, their suffering is often a result of systemic injustices, patriarchal norms, and the actions of individuals who seek to exert power and control over them.

Many women face violence and abuse in their own homes, at the hands of partners or family members who should provide love and protection. Domestic violence, including physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, leaves lasting scars on its victims, robbing them of their sense of safety and autonomy. 

Furthermore, women are often targeted for harassment and assault in public spaces, where they should feel free to move without fear. Street harassment, catcalling, and sexual assault are all too common occurrences, with women bearing the burden of navigating a world that constantly threatens their safety and dignity.

 In addition to physical violence, women also face systemic discrimination and oppression that limits their opportunities and perpetuates cycles of poverty and marginalization. From unequal access to education and employment to limited reproductive rights and healthcare, women are denied the full realization of their rights and potential.

In modern world,violence against women  should have no place. It is a gross violation of human rights and a blight on our society that must be condemned in the strongest terms. Advocacy for women’s rights and empowerment is not just a moral imperative, but a necessary step towards creating a more just and equitable world for all.We must stand in solidarity with survivors of violence, providing them with the support and resources they need to heal and rebuild their lives 

At the same time, we must address the root causes of violence against women, including deeply ingrained attitudes of sexism, misogyny, and gender inequality. This requires comprehensive education and awareness-raising efforts to challenge harmful stereotypes and promote healthy, respectful relationships .

Furthermore, we must advocate for policy reforms that prioritize the safety and well-being of women, including measures to prevent violence, support survivors, and promote gender equality in all aspects of society. This includes ratifying and implementing international conventions and treaties that protect women’s rights, as well as enacting and enforcing domestic laws that criminalize violence and discrimination against women

Toxic friendship and relationships often leave scars that reminds us  of the pain and suffering endured in their wake. From constant manipulation and emotional abuse to betrayal and exploitation, the experiences within these relationships can be truly harrowing.

Imagine being in a friendship where your every action is scrutinized, your confidence constantly undermined, and your boundaries repeatedly violated. Or picture a romantic relationship where love is twisted into control, affection is weaponized, and trust is shattered by deceit and infidelity. These experiences can cause immense psychological and emotional harm, leaving lasting scars on our hearts and minds. 

Recognizing signs of emotional abuse and manipulation is vital for maintaining healthy relationships and safeguarding one’s well-being. Emotional abuse often occurs insidiously, making it challenging to identify, especially for those who may be experiencing it for the first time or are unaware of its manifestations.

          Signs of emotional abuse and manipulation 

  • Criticism– this is constant pattern of demaening and mocking of behavior designed to undermine a person’s self- worth
  • Gaslighting – Manipulative tactics to make the victim doubt their perceptions, memories, and reality, leading to confusion and self-doubt
  • Emotional withdrawal -refer to withdrawing affection, communication and support as a form of punishment or control
  • Isolation -situation where  the abuser may attempt to isolate the victim from their support network, such as friends, family, or colleagues, to increase dependency and control
  • Jealousy and possessiveness-  excessive jeolousy often accompanied by accusations of betrayal and infidelity.
  • Invalidation – this is dismissing or minimizing the victim’s feelings, experiences, or concerns, leading to feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.
  •  Intimidation- Threats, aggression, or intimidating behavior to instill fear and compliance in the victim

Toxic relationships should be condemned unequivocally because they erode our sense of self-worth, diminish our autonomy, and prevent us from living fulfilling lives. They trap us in cycles of pain and despair, making it difficult to break free and seek healthier connections. Moreover, they normalize harmful behaviors and perpetuate cycles of abuse, both within the relationship and in future interactions.

Condemning toxic relationships is not just about holding individuals accountable for their actions; it’s about advocating for a culture of respect, empathy, and consent in all relationships. It’s about recognizing that everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and kindness, and that no one should have to endure the pain of abuse or manipulation in the name of friendship or love.

As we navigate through these uncertainties and chaos, setting boundaries becomes vital,for our overall well-being and resilience. In a world that can often feel overwhelming and unpredictable, establishing clear boundaries empowers us to create a sense of stability, security, and self-care amidst the turbulence.By setting boundaries, we reclaim agency over our lives, asserting our needs, values, and priorities in the face of external pressures and demands. It’s a form of self-protection and self-preservation that allows us to navigate through challenges with greater clarity, confidence, and resilience.

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1 Comment

  • Jeho , March 16, 2024 @ 8:33 PM

    I second this💯

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